On love: “Real love is the love that sometime arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other kind inevitably goes stale for it lies in mere fantasy".  Giacomo Casanova

Growth: When you finally can be yourself, when you have develop the ability to sustain the pain that relationships will subject you to and learn from it. When you feel that you are finally operating without fear.

Learning is the reason you are here. You will remain a student your whole life through. Most of the learning will come from interacting with girls you will meet. When the learning as been achieved you will move on.

Listening: Listening is an art. Girls like guys who listen. Are you a good listener? If not, make sure you develop that skill. You will be seen as an unusual kind of guy and girls will be flocking to you.

Laughing: Humor is the food that sustains the spirit. Without it you will be seen as dry. Girls love to laugh so they will expect you to display a good sense of humor. Laughing is what makes life fun. Girls love being around guys who are fun.

Connecting: Making the connections you will make throughout your life is one of the reasons you came down here. Without it, it’s life on your own and that’s no fun. You need that skill. You need to reach out. Getting rid of the fear is what it’s all about.

Fight: You heard it said: “life is tough and then you die”. You need to put up a good fight. Persevere, keep at it, take the punches; learn the art of avoiding them. You are in the ring. See yourself as a champ. Have no fear.

Seduce: You must be able to seduce yourself before you can seduce anyone else. Find out who you are. Tell yourself that you are the kind of guy you want to be. That is your point of departure. The rest will follow. Accepting yourself as you are puts you at the starting gate. Once you achieve that difficult step the rest is pretty easy. Have no fear.

I was born in Paris, the most romantic city in the world and for centuries the home to some of the greatest seducers in history. I therefore grew up surrounded by seduction and sexual awareness.  Hell, I was six when I had my first erection. It came from looking at the cheese tray that the most influential, and difficult, woman in my life (my mother) brought to the dinner table. My father held a delicious camembert under my nose and forced me to drink a glass of Cotes-Du-Rhone.  He turned to my mother and said “He will be the next Casanova”.

Casanova was cultured, suave, good looking, and rich.  He was desired by women, envied by men. He was the ultimate seducer. He didn’t give a damn about what girls thought, yet he managed to get them all between the sheets. He had the skills, he was a thief. He was my mentor. 

In my literature class I learned of another great seducer: Cyrano de Bergerac, a warrior with the fierceness of a Bengal tiger and a poetic soul as smooth as a baby seal.

The difference between Casanova and Cyrano was self-image. Casanova had no fear; Cyrano was self-conscience due to the unusually large nose in the middle of his face. Cyrano fell deeply in love with a woman but his lack of confidence prevented him from addressing her. He hired an Armani model type, Christian, to do the talking for him. He had Christian whisper poetry to young Roxanne on her balcony that he, Cyrano, had written for her. I was eighteen when I read that story. I figured out then that it is who you are that matters, not what you look like.

Today, as a French guy my own method of seduction is neither technical, scientific nor theatrical.  The core message: reach inside and find out who you are before you attempt to seduce anyone. Then go for it. “Charity begins at home”. In order to be a good seducer you first need to seduce yourself.

American guys are now masters at internet talk. “Don’t bother to shop, get your woman online!” And while things in France have changed too, it’s still “I like you, I want you, my place or yours?” It’s about making connection, mutual consent, mutual desire. Moral issues play a lesser role. American women have made it quite inappropriate to cross the line, leaving guys anxious and confused.

Today women earn just as much (and sometimes more) than men. Good, they can take us to dinner for a change! But this economic shift has altered relationships probably forever. We now have a new breed of ‘difficult women’ programmed to rate men’s earning potential, giving birth to a new breed of confused men. Men have become more fearful of the ‘new age woman’, so from now on guys will have to re-learn how to be MEN, instead of scared little boys.

And while all of this is happening Cyrano is still here, home alone facing a monitor searching for the girl of his dreams. He is the new “dot com” man afraid to show himself so he let his fingers do the talking. The screen he faces is his protective shield. But this new age Cyrano needs the know-how before he goes out to get the girl. That is precisely where I can help you.  Don’t hesitate to get in touch with any questions you may have.